Commenter MaxedOutMama made a fine point by asking:
Why don't you ask the geeks you like out? If you're attractive, they're probably not even thinking they should give it a shot. A lot of women think geeks are boring, and most of them know that.
Dude. I so can not ask a guy out.
I know what you guys are thinking. I'm the outgoing person, and I am, except for that.
I have no man radar. I'm clueless when it comes to if a guy likes me or not. After spending years working with 3,000 of them, you'd think I'd know them pretty well, eh?
Truth of the matter is I don't. I have so many friends that are guys and work with so many that I always just assume they want to be my friend, because that is what most of the men in my life are.
I asked a guy out once, and I almost needed valium for a week afterwards. He said yes, but I practically had a panic attack while I was asking.
How do you men do it? I am so extroverted, you would think it would be easy. Not.at.all.
I would be so screwed if I were a man.
Really, the worse that can happen is they say no. Well, really the worse is your ego will be pounded into the dirt, and you'll feel like an ass every time you are around them.
I have asked people out on accident, and it went well. They thought I was asking them out, but I was really just like, "Hey dude, let's do this," in a friend kind of way. When they kissed me at the end of the night my clueless ass was like, "oh!"
My last relationship actually started that way. He said he had always wanted to learn how to play craps. I was like, "Let's go Saturday, I'll show you." He took this as me asking him out, I took it as cool I get to go play craps.
He didn't technically fall into the "geek" category, but I don't know if "geek" is a good description of my type. Intelligent. That's probably better. Someone that will challenge my mind.
Looks are just icing on the cake for me, as I could really care less. Someone that starts a good conversation gets my motor running way more then someone who is just good looking. I'd get bored with that real fast.
I'm doomed. I'm doomed to be a bad boy tamer for the rest of my life.
Better yet, maybe I'll just get one more of these:
and become a crazy cat lady!